In the past I’ve been very bad at saying no to requests for my help and I’ve found myself stretched thin. Not to say that these things weren’t beneficial, but at times it caused a lot of stress. Over the past 2-3 years I’ve practiced saying no and I’m now much more comfortable doing it. My time is precious and I’ve got lots of things I want to do. One of them, and the most important one, is being available for my son. Just being there to play, chat, whatever it may be, without the stress hanging over me of non day job related deadlines.
I got rid of all old clients hanging over from my freelance days, and just last week I stepped down as organiser of the PHP Yorkshire conference. I also gave up running Leeds PHP last year.
At times I’ve found myself wondering what I should do with myself as the demands and stresses had gone. It was stressful to not have anything in particular to do. That’s another thing, I need to learn to relax. It’s all part of the same journey.